If I was low-vision and wore coke-bottle thick glasses, would those same strangers come up to me and say "Don't start any fires with those glasses"? Of course not, only a most boorish person would do such a thing. How is it any different with my wheelchair? I don't find it funny and I don't like it. My own family doesn't even say things like that. Be careful how you tread into other people's grief.
I read about a mother of a child with severe cerebral palsy who was told by some prominent member of her church "If you only had the faith of a mustard seed, your child would jump out of that wheelchair." Do you see what happened with an awful comment like that? The
One evening at the weekly Bible study my wife and I attended, she opened up about her deepest internal grief of having an abortion as a teenager. The next week, without warning, another member of the Bible study, a doctor's wife, presented my wife with a dead fetus preserved in a jar of formaldehyde. It was the same gestational age as the child she aborted. It broke my wife's heart. Such cruelty!
My wife stopped going to church or attending and Bible studies. With friends like that ... . I could go on with these sorts of stories in our experience but blog posts should not be too long. Be careful how you tread into other people's grief.
Here's my point: We should not be surprised at cruelties or crassness from secularists and non-believers, but it is utterly unacceptable from followers of Christ, when He showed us such love.
Be kind. Be considerate. You may be the only Christian some hurting people meet. Remember, most people are hurting or broken at some level. Be careful how you tread into other people's grief.
None of us know the spiritual dynamics behind other people's griefs. God may be using anguish or loss or sorrow for a divine purpose. Don't get in the way or be an obstruction to that purpose. We do not know God's purposes and He has no obligation to reveal His plan for others to us.
Life is a spiritual journey (or it should be). We are called to faith and witness, kindness and Christ-like love not judgement of grief, disability or loss.
Be careful how you tread into other people's grief. It may be sacred ground.