Late 2018 was a low point for me. After more than three decades of aggressive multiple sclerosis (MS), I had been taken to a point where three out of four of my limbs were affected by paralysis. I was at end-stage MS; My family expected my next address would that of a nursing home—or worse! It was the year my disease forced me to stop speaking across North America advocating disability inclusion and the sanctity of all human life. But travel slowly became too difficult. It came to an end after a keynote speech I delivered Dubuque County Right to Life group in Iowa. The day before my address, Iowa Governor Kim Reynolds signed into law America’s strictest abortion restriction at the time. It banned most abortions after a fetal heartbeat could be detected (around six weeks of pregnancy), It was into that momentous event I arrived to a celebratory atmosphere. It was on the flight home that I encountered a slew of disasters including me being locked out of the airport late at night! (Their initials are AA.) I arrived home so exhausted that my wife (God bless her) told me t was the end of my travelling to speak days. She stated was I already knew. In November 2018, wings were clipped and I descended into a deep depression. I lost my sense of purpose. Wrong!
One evening I was at the Catholic Church at the top of hill that Beaumont is named after.[1] I sat paralysed in my electric wheelchair, praying before the Blessed Sacrament. I didn’t ask the Lord for a cure to my MS—I had done that for many years. My disease worsened. I knew there was a reason for it so I prayed for time: time to be able to go with LaRee to restaurants on date-night without worrying whether the place had a lip at the entrance or would stop my wheelchair from entering; time to walk, or dance with LaRee just as we had before the MS stopped it; time to smile at an old friend face-to-face and shake his hand. In short, some time to live without fear about my creeping paralysis and contraptions associated with serious physical disability.
Over the coming days or weeks (it's all a glorious blur) something began to profound happened to me. As I slept one night I was awakened to a presence. It was as real as if LaRee was standing in my room. It was Him! Something told me—not in words but an understanding, a “knowing” to touch my little finger with my thumb. I hadn’t been able to do that in many years. But the divine presence told me to, so I tried. My thumb did touch my little finger, then the other three. I did it again, and again, but I did tell my wife fearing the newly restore ability was simply a momentary neurological blip then disappear.
The next morning, I whirred my electric wheelchair to the kitchen and noticed a pen and an envelope sitting on the table. Slowly, hesitantly, I reached to the pen and was able to pick it. Surprise! Then came the test. Could I write something on the envelope? Yes! I was able to easily write my name. It was the same handwriting style as it had been decades earlier. It was one of those eternal moments when one lives a lifetime.
When LaRee awoke a few hours later and entered the kitchen, still bleary eyed, she poured her first coffee of a new day, I said: “LaRee, watch this.” I wrote my name again easily and clearly. Her eyes widened and she stopped mid-sip! “What?!” I replied, tears welling in her beautiful brown eyes and she started to cry. As tears ran down her cheeks, she asked, “When did this happen?” Her voice quivered with emotion. LaRee was unable to comprehend what she just witnessed.
“Last night about 2:00 in the morning!” I replied. “I was awakened by something in my room. It was ethereal yet more real than if it was you. Something empyrean, so graceful, pure and emanating a divine perfect love that could be of this world! It was—how should I explain this? — a divine presence that came to me, not from across my bedroom but from across the ages.”
For a moment I thought my words went too far to be believed. I expected LaRee to look at me thinking MS was finally affecting my brain’s little grey cells. I looked down with embarrassment. Sheepishly I looked at her, expecting a look of incredulity. She did not!
Throughout our lives together[2] we have experienced the most divine interventions of the Holy Spirit. She simply accepted what I was saying as someone who personally has experienced the indwelling of the Holy Spirit that the world does not, cannot, and stubbornly will not allow to enter their lives.
“However, you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God dwells in you. But if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he does not belong to Him.”[3] — Romans 8:9, NRSV
A short time later, I was sitting my wheelchair at the kitchen table again. It was early and I was looking out the kitchen window into the backyard watching sparrows’ flitter the around a bird feeder My attention was drawn to a walker in the corner of the kitchen hat was my decently deceased mother-in-law’s. Unexpectedly, that same divine sublime presence and filled the room. I was told to stand and walk with the walker. It was not some vague figment of my imagination or wishful thinking of a man with atrophied legs from years of paralysis. The message clear, unambiguous the Holy Spirit speaking to a crippled and sinful man who was shrinking back into his wheelchair with shame. Like Peter meeting Christ and fearfully falling to his knees before Jesus: “Go away Lord; for I am a sinful man.”[4] That was with initial reaction to the vivid and evident presence of the Holy Spirit in the room. “Stand and walk with that walker?” How was I supposed to do that? I hadn’t walked in many years, my legs atrophied and weak. I doubted they could hold the weight of my body! But the paraclete was with me encouraging me, and so I tried and did stand up, albeit with trembling legs. I grabbed the handles of the walker. Then I walked five steps and did it again, then ten. Thunderous joy!
I went back to my wheelchair and sat in it. LaRee was still sleeping. I called to her to come and see what I could do! Groggy, bleary eyed and irritated at being awakened LaRee came to the bedroom door. “What!” she grumbled. Undeterred I say, “watch.” I got out of my wheelchair and walked toward her. Her bleary eyes turned wide open in shock and she literally staggered back into the room. “What?! How?!”
That was the beginning of seven wonderful years of me walking unaided in the house and in our backyard and going up and down the stairs in our home. I used a cane only when I was tired from walking and a scooter for longer distances. LaRee and I would go to restaurants on date night without worry.
That winter, on a Canadian cold February night, LaRee and I did dance. We slow danced in our living room to the last song we danced to decades earlier when we suspected we would not dance again: Once, Twice, Three Times a Lady. She put her head into my chest and wept because she was afraid we might be coming to the end of our rainbow, just like the song said, not knowing where the MS would take us. Holding each other close, our hearts were one and she melted into me, knowing we had not yet come to the end of our rainbow as feared for so many years.
Now those days free from my wheelchair are ending now after seven and a half years. God gave me the time I prayed for to be able to walk with LaRee like we did when we were young, sweet years to go on date night without facing barriers, to hold each other on winter night without a cold steel wheelchair getting in the way to scare intimacy away.
We are 73 and are lamenting that our able-bodied honeymoon is coming to a close. We are grateful God gave us those treasured seven years.
