“Our once great western Christian civilization is dying. If this matters to followers of Jesus Christ, then we must set aside our denominational differences and work together to strengthen the things that remain and reclaim what has been lost. Evangelicals and Catholics must stand together to re-establish that former Christian culture and moral consensus. We have the numbers and the organization but the question is this: Do we have the will to win this present spiritual battle for Jesus Christ against secularism? Will we prayerfully and cooperatively work toward a new Christian spiritual revival ― or will we choose to hunker down in our churches and denominationalisms and watch everything sink into the spiritual and moral abyss of a New Dark Age?” - Mark Davis Pickup

Wednesday, March 26, 2014


I watched a thirty-seven year marriage end. It’s a tragedy for
everyone involved. The husband’s infidelities came to light and his wife was overwhelmed by deep and justifiable feelings of betrayal and grief.  She was an emotional wreck: One moment she was shouting and stomping around her house, the next moment she was sad and weepy. The adult children of that marriage were heart-broken to see the dissolution of their original family. They rallied around their mother who was, after all, the first aggrieved party. In turn, the unfaithful husband and father responded to his sons and daughters with cold detachment.  This intensified the pain of his family

I suspect the feigned indifference was to mask his internal shame and gnawing guilt. He knew he betrayed the very people who loved him most by breaking the vows he made to his wife before Almighty God and the community.  He was supposed to love, protect and nurture his family but in the end he broke their hearts and trust.  

There are no winners in divorce, only losers. Divorce even hurts the community, yet there is so much of it.

Let us not pussy-foot around modern sensibilities: God hates divorce and he told us this in no uncertain terms (Malachi 2.16).  He considers the attitude of indifference toward marriage vows and duties as tantamount to the treacherous actions of a traitor. 

Marriage was established by God as the union of a man and a woman. Marriage is a sacred institution and must not be torn down, altered or abandoned.

At the heart of divorce is sin. It may manifest itself as infidelity, jealously, discord, mutual recriminations, conflict, violence or domination, but it is all rooted in spiritual rebellion and rejection of God and His love.

Sadly, I must admit that divorce has marred and scarred my
extended family.  There has been so much of it.   I can honestly say that not one person has been better because of it. They all are poorer. I’m not talking about financial poorness ― although that often was an issue too ― I am talking about poverty of the heart, spirit and soul that is the worst of all human poverties.  Spiritual poverty is the ultimate result of sin.

Jesus taught that from the beginning of human history the original union of a man and a woman was willed by God and determined by God to be indissoluble. Thus Jesus said: “Therefore what God has joined, no human being must separate.” (Matthew 19.6)

Yet people do tear apart marriage and that is a sin.

The key to a successful marriage is to follow Christ, renounce self-interest, and place the interests of our spouse before ourselves. It is in faithfully following Christ that the original meaning of marriage can be discovered. 

If you are divorced, take heart. There is forgiveness available.  Christ paid the penalty for sin at Calvary.  Through contrition, confession and penance all people can be forgiven and are reconciled to Christ.  The forgiveness of sin and reconciliation with God is the greatest fruit of Christ’s cross. Bringing sinful humanity to reconciliation and peace with God is the greatest mandate of the Christ's Church. Whatever your place or situation in life, give it to God and humbly follow Jesus. He is our greatest partner.

Although I am not divorced, I do know sorrow, heart-ache and pain. Many of my posts have chronicled them. My consolation is following Christ. I have discovered that there can be peace even in the midst calamity. I don’t know how those seemingly contradictory states can co-exist simultaneously, but they can and do. It’s a glorious mystery available to Christians to enjoy in their happiest moments or darkest hours.

Like the old hymn tells us, God is our refuge, a mighty fortress in
time of need.  That fortress is a refuge designed for the rejected or deserted, the broken-hearted, and people who think they are unloved. In that refuge of God they will find unconditional love and acceptance even if it seems that their earthly world is falling apart.  

Yes, God hates divorce but He loves you more than you can imagine. Regardless of what has broken your heart, let go of your pain or grudges and give them to God. Forgive. -- Mark

[Click on image below or http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=indCvnD4Ji4 for Kevin LeVar "A Heart That Forgives"]

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